{"id":7719,"date":"2021-10-03T23:00:30","date_gmt":"2021-10-03T20:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/?p=7719"},"modified":"2021-10-03T23:06:15","modified_gmt":"2021-10-03T20:06:15","slug":"cocugumdaki-degisimi-nasil-olumlu-hale-getirebilirim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/cocugumdaki-degisimi-nasil-olumlu-hale-getirebilirim\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocu\u011fumdaki de\u011fi\u015fimi nas\u0131l olumlu hale getirebilirim?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fumdaki de\u011fi\u015fimi nas\u0131l olumlu hale getirebilirim?<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De\u011fi\u015fen e\u011fitim kademesi, de\u011fi\u015fen \u00f6\u011frencimiz ve de\u011fi\u015fmemizin fark\u0131nda olmayan \/ olamayan velilerimiz&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Evet yanl\u0131\u015f okumad\u0131n\u0131z, siz, yani ebeveynlerimiz&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yeni bir e\u011fitim &#8211; \u00f6\u011fretim y\u0131l\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor bizi uzun bir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ard\u0131ndan ve bu yenili\u011fin i\u00e7inde ba\u015fka yeniler de kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor bizleri her ne kadar fark\u0131nda olamasak da&#8230; Yeni ya\u015f\u0131na giren \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z, onlar\u0131n bu de\u011fi\u015fimiyle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya olan velilerimiz&#8230; Evet, hepimiz \u00e7ok mutlu heyecanl\u0131 ve biraz da hakl\u0131 olarak gergin ve de tela\u015fl\u0131y\u0131z. Pandeminin g\u00f6lgesinde o \u00e7ok \u00f6zledi\u011fimiz zaman dilimine nihayet kavu\u015ftuk. Fakat bu heyecan ve duygusall\u0131k biraz da \u00f6\u011frenme i\u015ftah\u0131, ne yaz\u0131k ki \u00e7ok k\u0131sa zamanda duraklamaya ge\u00e7ecek, yerine birtak\u0131m sorunlar gelecektir. Duygusal ve ekonomik olarak b\u00fcy\u00fck haz\u0131rl\u0131klar yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bu yeni sezon maalesef ki \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck bir bo\u015flu\u011fu da yaratarak kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor bizleri. \u00d6yle ki bu bo\u015flu\u011fun yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 sars\u0131nt\u0131y\u0131 \u015fimdiden \u00e7ok rahatl\u0131kla g\u00f6zlemleyebiliyoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Hadi gelin bakal\u0131m neymi\u015f olu\u015fan bu b\u00fcy\u00fck gedik, neymi\u015f o \u00e7ok m\u00fchim sorunlar:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Asosyallik,<\/li><li>\u0130leti\u015fim bozuklu\u011fu,<\/li><li>Akademik ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n artmas\u0131,<\/li><li>\u00c7al\u0131\u015fma al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n kaybolmas\u0131,<\/li><li>Okula al\u0131\u015fma korkusu,<\/li><li>Davran\u0131\u015f bozukluklar\u0131,<\/li><li>Odaklanma sorunlar\u0131,<\/li><li>Yaz\u0131 yazmay\u0131 unutma,<\/li><li>Okumay\u0131 unutma,<\/li><li>Okuma al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n azalmas\u0131,<\/li><li>Geli\u015fim s\u00fcrecinden kaynakl\u0131 problemler\u2026<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>K\u0131saca okula, \u00e7evreye, derslere, aileye hatta \u00f6\u011frencilerin kendisine ve daha bir\u00e7ok duruma kar\u015f\u0131 uyum sorunu&#8230;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu ve bunun gibi sorunlar her d\u00f6nem mutlaka vard\u0131 fakat hi\u00e7bir d\u00f6nem bu kadar \u00e7\u0131kmaza sokmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 veli ve de \u00f6\u011frencileri. Haliyle bahsi ge\u00e7en problemlerin yans\u0131malar\u0131 da bir o kadar ac\u0131 olmu\u015ftur. Belki bir \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k, belki de \u00fcmitsizlik; en \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc noktas\u0131 da \u00e7aresizlik hissi \u00f6\u011frenci ve ebeynlerinin can\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131kacak noktaya gelmi\u015ftir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Haliyle bir an \u00f6nce \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f tabir-i caizse kurtulu\u015f yolu aray\u0131\u015flar\u0131 da hi\u00e7bir d\u00f6nemde bu kadar \u00f6n planda olmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ne yaz\u0131k ki e\u011fitim ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n\u00a0geli\u015fim s\u00fcrecini tam olarak tan\u0131mlayamad\u0131k, bu s\u00fcrecin fark\u0131na tam olarak varamad\u0131k. Ebeynlerimiz de i\u015fin sadece bu k\u0131sm\u0131na odaklanm\u0131\u015f, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7ine d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fckleri bu durumu panik havas\u0131nda biraz da \u00fcmitsizce \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Onlar u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n kendilerinden uzakla\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na varamad\u0131lar. Onlar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n iyili\u011fi i\u00e7in sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00a0ve g\u00f6revlerini s\u00fcrekli telkin ettik\u00e7e \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n tam tersine i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e daha da ihmalkar hale geldiklerini g\u00f6remediler. Onlar de\u011fi\u015fen e\u011fitim kademesi gere\u011fi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndan bir an \u00f6nce bu de\u011fi\u015fime ayak uydurmas\u0131n\u0131 beklerken \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n da psikolojik tepki gere\u011fi biraz daha \u00e7ocukla\u015fmaya, kendi kabuklar\u0131nda ya\u015famaya, geli\u015fim s\u00fcrecinin de etkisiyle kendi d\u00fcnyalar\u0131n\u0131 kurup orada ebeveynlerinden uzakta ya\u015famaya ba\u015flad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zlemleyemediler. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Velilerin m\u00fckemmel anne baba olma pe\u015finde ko\u015ftururken \u00e7ocu\u011fun ihtiyac\u0131 olan anne -baba profilinden uzakla\u015fmalar\u0131 ve fark\u0131nda olmadan birazdan bahsedece\u011fimiz tutumlara a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k vermeleri de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n hem bireysel hem de akademik geli\u015fimleri \u00fczerinde istenmeyen sorun ve sonu\u00e7lara yol a\u00e7maktad\u0131r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em><strong>Olumsuz aile tutum \u015fekilleri<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 sevgi ve gev\u015fek e\u011fitim,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 sevgi ve s\u0131k\u0131 e\u011fitim,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Yetersiz sevgi ve a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 disiplin,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Gev\u015fek e\u011fitim ve yetersiz sevgi<u>,<\/u><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Anne ve baban\u0131n tutumlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda tutars\u0131zl\u0131k,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Aile i\u00e7indeki karde\u015flere farkl\u0131 tutumlar,&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>*Aile i\u00e7i kutupla\u015fmalar\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00dczerine daha da eklememiz m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olan bu tutumlar\u0131n \u00e7aresi elbette m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Yeter ki anne &#8211; babalar hissettikleri ve ya\u015fatt\u0131klar\u0131 ebeveyn ve veli profilinin dengesini nas\u0131l sa\u011flamas\u0131 gerekti\u011finin fark\u0131nda olsun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ailelerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n e\u011fitimine kat\u0131lmas\u0131, sadece \u00f6\u011frenim g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri okullara gidip \u00f6\u011fretmenleri ve okul idarecileri ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeleri, imkanlar\u0131 el verdi\u011fi kadar\u0131yla veli toplant\u0131lar\u0131na, okullarda d\u00fczenlenen etkinliklere kat\u0131lmalar\u0131, veli olma tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 tam olarak dolduram\u0131yor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bununla birlikte ailelerin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n e\u011fitim durumlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenli olarak takip etmeleri, onlarla okuldaki aktivitelerinde i\u015f birli\u011fi i\u00e7inde bulunmalar\u0131, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n sosyal ve bili\u015fsel ilerlemesini takip etmeleri, \u00f6\u011fretmenleriyle en etkili \u015fekilde irtibatta bulunmalar\u0131 hem kendileri hem de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u00fczerinde \u00e7ok ciddi de\u011fi\u015fimlerin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesini de sa\u011flayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Biliyoruz ki son derece h\u0131zl\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fen bir d\u00f6nemin i\u00e7indeyiz. Bu de\u011fi\u015fimler bazen o kadar ani oluyor ki ona ayak uydurmak i\u00e7in t\u00fcm g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fczle \u00e7abal\u0131yor bazense yetersiz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan ya da d\u00fczenimizin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131ndan korktu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in harekete ge\u00e7mekten uzak kal\u0131yoruz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fakat s\u00f6z konusu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z oldu\u011fundan bu de\u011fi\u015fimden uzak kald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her an asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zdan da uzak kalm\u0131\u015f oluyoruz. \u0130\u00e7ten i\u00e7e \u015fikayet ve \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmaya sebep olan bu hal \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n geli\u015fim d\u00f6nemlerindeki farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n da etkisiyle gelece\u011fe uzanmay\u0131 hayalden \u00f6teye ta\u015f\u0131yamayacak kadar b\u00fcy\u00fck hasarlara yol a\u00e7abilmektedir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Onun i\u00e7in ebeveynlerin bu \u00e7etrefilli s\u00fcre\u00e7ten ba\u015far\u0131yla \u00e7\u0131kmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in tak\u0131nd\u0131klar\u0131 tav\u0131rlar\u0131 dikkatlice se\u00e7meleri gerekmektedir ve ta\u015f\u0131n alt\u0131na ellerini hi\u00e7 \u00e7ekinmeden koymalar\u0131 gerekmektedir.<strong> \u201cYa\u015famda iki \u00f6nemli se\u00e7im vard\u0131r: Ya var olan ko\u015fullar\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi kabul etmek ya da onlar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmenin sorumlulu\u011funu \u00fcstlenmek.\u201d<\/strong> \u015feklinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini ifade eden Denis Waitley\u2019in de bu sesine kulak verip ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz olan bu de\u011fi\u015fimi kendi ya\u015fam s\u00fcrecimizin bir par\u00e7as\u0131 \u015feklinde kabul etmemiz gerekiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Bunun i\u00e7inse \u00fczerimize d\u00fc\u015fen birtak\u0131m \u00f6nemli g\u00f6revler vard\u0131r. Gelin \u015fimdi onlara bakal\u0131m:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1. Sadece \u00f6\u011f\u00fct verici olmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2. Sen dili dedi\u011fimiz su\u00e7lay\u0131c\u0131 ifadelerden ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3. \u00c7ocuklar \u00fczerinde bask\u0131c\u0131 tutum sergilemekten uzak durun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir ileti\u015fim ortam\u0131 olu\u015fturun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">5. \u0130yi bir dinleyici olun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">6. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n hakk\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zetin ve tutarl\u0131 davran\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">7. Ne \u00e7ok sert ne de \u00e7ok yumu\u015fak, orta halli bir davran\u0131\u015f sergileyin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">8. En \u00f6nemlisi de \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu her y\u00f6n\u00fcyle kabul edin ve varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na sayg\u0131 duyun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Biliyoruz ki her zorlu\u011fun beraberinde getirdi\u011fi b\u00fcy\u00fck kolayl\u0131k ve g\u00fczellikler vard\u0131r. Fakat unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r ki hi\u00e7bir g\u00fczellik de bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fimi kadar anlaml\u0131 de\u011fildir. Bu y\u00fczden de ebeveynlerimiz, de\u011fi\u015fimden korkmamal\u0131 bir an \u00f6nce bu g\u00fczelli\u011fi ya\u015fama ve ya\u015fatma ad\u0131na harekete ge\u00e7melidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em><strong>Emrah Batur<\/strong><\/em><strong><br><em><a href=\"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/sirinyer-sinav-anadolu-lisesi\/\">\u015eirinyer S\u0131nav Anadolu Lisesi<\/a><\/em><br><em>Edebiyat \u00d6\u011fretmeni<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>De\u011fi\u015fen e\u011fitim kademesi, de\u011fi\u015fen \u00f6\u011frencimiz ve de\u011fi\u015fmemizin fark\u0131nda olmayan \/ olamayan velilerimiz&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7723,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92],"tags":[166],"class_list":["post-7719","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-makaleler","tag-cocugumdaki-degisim","odd"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7719","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7719"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7719\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7723"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7719"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7719"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7719"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}