{"id":5669,"date":"2021-06-10T15:34:33","date_gmt":"2021-06-10T12:34:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/?p=5669"},"modified":"2021-06-10T22:39:57","modified_gmt":"2021-06-10T19:39:57","slug":"cocuklarda-oz-guven-kavramina-iliskin-dogru-bilinen-yanlislar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/cocuklarda-oz-guven-kavramina-iliskin-dogru-bilinen-yanlislar\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocuklarda \u00f6z g\u00fcven kavram\u0131na ili\u015fkin do\u011fru bilinen yanl\u0131\u015flar"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u00c7ocuklarda \u00f6z g\u00fcven kavram\u0131na ili\u015fkin do\u011fru bilinen yanl\u0131\u015flar<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ki\u015finin ya\u015fam\u0131nda \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yan kavramlardan biri de <strong>\u00f6z g\u00fcven<\/strong>. Kendini rahat\u00e7a ifade etmekten sosyalle\u015fmeye, benli\u011fine anlam katmaya dek bir\u00e7ok konuda ki\u015fiye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan \u00f6z g\u00fcvenin temelleri \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda at\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, bu konuda <strong>anne<\/strong>&#8211; <strong>babalara <\/strong>\u00f6nemli g\u00f6revler d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocukluk <\/strong>g\u00fcnlerine, okul y\u0131llar\u0131na, sosyal ortamlar\u0131n\u0131za ya da i\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131za dair hat\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fileri durup d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn&#8230; Kimler akl\u0131n\u0131zda kald\u0131? Yak\u0131n arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kendine g\u00fcveniyle dikkat \u00e7ekenler in\u015falar m\u0131 geliyor akl\u0131n\u0131za? O halde \u00f6zg\u00fcvenin \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kan bir \u00f6zellik oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemek yanl\u0131\u015f olmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u00d6z g\u00fcven eksikli\u011fi nas\u0131l belirti veriyor?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu durum en \u00e7ok; fikir belirtmeme ya da fikrini s\u00f6yleyememe, karar almada zorlanma, s\u0131n\u0131r koyamama, hay\u0131r diyememe, olumlu olaylar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelip, olumsuz olaylardan kolayca etkilenme, sosyal ortamlara girmeme, i\u00e7e kapanma, utan\u00e7, su\u00e7luluk, pi\u015fmanl\u0131k, sevilmedi\u011fini hissetme, kendini ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z ve de\u011fersiz olarak de\u011ferlendirme, fiziksel g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc be\u011fenmeme, insanlar taraf\u0131ndan kolayca reddedilece\u011fine inanma, ele\u015ftirilere kar\u015f\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 hassas olma ve risk alamama olarak kendini g\u00f6steriyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Evet \u00f6zg\u00fcven eksikli\u011finin belirtileri bunlar. Peki \u00f6zg\u00fcvenle \u00e7ok fazla kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lan ya da \u00f6zg\u00fcvenle ilgili do\u011fru bildi\u011fimiz yanl\u0131\u015flar var m\u0131? Ya da soruyu \u015f\u00f6yle soral\u0131m. <strong>\u00d6zg\u00fcven <\/strong>mi <strong>cesaret <\/strong>mi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u00d6z g\u00fcveni, cesaret ile ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde de\u011ferlendirmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc? Ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00f6nler neler?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu iki kavram birbirine \u00e7ok yak\u0131n gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de asl\u0131nda farkl\u0131. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/tr.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/%C3%96zg%C3%BCven\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u00d6zg\u00fcven<\/a><\/strong>, insan\u0131n kendine y\u00f6nelik iyi duygular geli\u015ftirmesi sonucu, benli\u011finden memnun olmas\u0131 ve bunun sonucu olarak kendisi ve \u00e7evresiyle bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k olmas\u0131 iken cesaret, ba\u015f\u0131na gelecek herhangi bir \u015feyden \u00e7ekinmemektir. \u00d6z g\u00fcven ge\u00e7mi\u015ften gelen bir altyap\u0131 gerektirirken, cesaret buna ihtiya\u00e7 duymaz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Herkes cesur olabilse de \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli olmayabilir. <strong>Cesaret<\/strong>, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n veya bir \u00fcst de\u011ferin dayatmas\u0131yla olsa da \u00f6zg\u00fcven, ki\u015finin bizzat kendine dayatmas\u0131yla ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u0130kisinin de fazlas\u0131 zarar verebiliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6zg\u00fcvenin kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 di\u011fer kavram ise <strong>benlik alg\u0131s\u0131<\/strong>. \u00d6nce \u015funu s\u00f6ylemek laz\u0131m; g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u00f6zg\u00fcvene sahip olmak, benlik sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n da y\u00fcksek olaca\u011f\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelmiyor. Bir cerrah\u0131n ameliyathanede harikalar yarat\u0131yor olmas\u0131, i\u00e7indeki de\u011fersizlik duygusundan kurtulmas\u0131na yetmeyebilir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Keza sahnede devle\u015fen bir y\u0131ld\u0131z, kuliste be\u011fenilirli\u011fini sorgulayabilir. Bu de\u011fersizlik duygusuyla ba\u015f edebilmek i\u00e7in insanlar bazen haval\u0131 unvanlar\u0131n arkas\u0131na saklanabilirler. Bundan da anla\u015f\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 gibi \u00f6zg\u00fcvenle benlik sayg\u0131s\u0131 her zaman yan yana olmayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"708\" height=\"481\" src=\"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/ozguven.jpg\" alt=\"\u00d6z g\u00fcven\" class=\"wp-image-5670\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/ozguven.jpg 708w, https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/ozguven-300x204.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/ozguven-150x102.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 708px) 100vw, 708px\" \/><figcaption>\u00d6z g\u00fcven<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Son olarak \u00f6zg\u00fcvenle kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lan \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc sorun ise, <strong>a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcven<\/strong>. Toplumda neredeyse herkes \u00f6zg\u00fcvenini geli\u015ftirme arzu ve \u00e7abas\u0131ndad\u0131r. Fakat bazen \u00f6zg\u00fcveni d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck ki\u015filer, kendime olan g\u00fcvenimi geli\u015ftireyim derken bunu \u00e7ok da ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i olmayan bir bi\u00e7imde yapabiliyorlar ve sonu\u00e7 olarak deyim yerindeyse \u00f6zg\u00fcvenlerini geli\u015ftirmek yerine \u015fi\u015firebiliyorlar. \u0130\u015fte bu a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli olma durumu asl\u0131nda tam geli\u015ftirilememi\u015f bir \u00f6zg\u00fcvenin i\u015faretidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Peki bunu nas\u0131l ay\u0131rt ederiz?&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&nbsp;A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcveni olan ki\u015filer s\u00fcrekli olarak gizli bir k\u0131yas halindedirler. Kimseyi kendilerine \u201c<strong>rakip<\/strong>\u201d g\u00f6rmeyerek asl\u0131nda herkesin onlar i\u00e7in nas\u0131l birer \u201c<strong>rakip<\/strong>\u201d oldu\u011funu ve bu rakipleri nas\u0131l alt edeceklerini kurgulamakla fazla enerji harcarlar. Kendilerini \u201c<strong>di\u011ferlerinden \u00fcst\u00fcn<\/strong>\u201d g\u00f6rme e\u011filimleri vard\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hatalar\u0131n\u0131 kolay kolay kabul etmezler, e\u011fer hatalar\u0131 \u00e7ok belirginse genellikle d\u0131\u015fsal sebepler bulurlar. B\u00f6yle birisine hatas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rsan\u0131z size \u00f6fkelenebilir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hatas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek dahi istemeyecektir. Kendi i\u00e7lerinde ise yo\u011fun bir su\u00e7luluk duygusu ile bu \u201c<strong>ben b\u00f6yle bir hatay\u0131 nas\u0131l yapt\u0131m!<\/strong>\u201d deyip kendilerini yiyip bitirirler. Hata yapma konusunda kendilerine kar\u015f\u0131 olduk\u00e7a ac\u0131mas\u0131zd\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Oysa herkes hata yapabilir. Hata yapan ve vicdani sorumlulu\u011fu olan herkes kendini su\u00e7lu ve k\u00f6t\u00fc hisseder ama kendine bir hata pay\u0131 da b\u0131rak\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kusursuz olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bilincindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n denemekten vazge\u00e7memeyi, hata yapmaktan korkmamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmeleri \u015fart. Bunun i\u00e7in de zorlan\u0131p, \u00fcstesinden gelmenin hazz\u0131n\u0131 tatmaya ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 var. Becerilerini, ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131, <strong>olumlu<\/strong>\/<strong>olumsuz <\/strong>ki\u015fisel \u00f6zelliklerini ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir bi\u00e7imde de\u011ferlendirmeye ihtiya\u00e7 duyuyorlar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hepimizin \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u00e7ok k\u0131ymetli, \u00e7ok \u00f6zel; ko\u015fulsuz olarak sevilip, kabul edilmeyi sonuna kadar hak ediyorlar ama ayn\u0131 zamanda bir b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcn par\u00e7as\u0131 olduklar\u0131n\u0131, benzerleriyle ortak bir hayat\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 unutmamalar\u0131 gerekiyor. D\u00fcnya onlar\u0131n etraf\u0131nda d\u00f6nm\u00fcyor; becerileri, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc yanlar\u0131, \u00e7ok iyi yapt\u0131klar\u0131 kadar hepimiz gibi s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131, zaaflar\u0131, zay\u0131fl\u0131klar\u0131 da var. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimse bundan muaf de\u011fil, bizi insan yapan da bu zaten. Bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcp, kendilerine hakkaniyetli davranarak, d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fckten sonra tekrar aya\u011fa kalkmay\u0131 bilerek m\u00fccadele ederlerse \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli ve kendilerini seven \u00e7ocuklar olacaklard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>\u0130lker Atatoprak<br>Sosyal Bilgiler \u00d6\u011fretmeni<br><a href=\"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/bornova-sinav-koleji\/\">Bornova S\u0131nav Koleji<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00c7ocuklarda \u00f6z g\u00fcven kavram\u0131na ili\u015fkin do\u011fru bilinen yanl\u0131\u015flar Ki\u015finin ya\u015fam\u0131nda \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yan kavramlardan biri de \u00f6z g\u00fcven. Kendini rahat\u00e7a ifade&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/cocuklarda-oz-guven-kavramina-iliskin-dogru-bilinen-yanlislar\/\">&hellip;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5675,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92],"tags":[99,98],"class_list":["post-5669","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-makaleler","tag-oz-guven","tag-ozguven","odd"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5669","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5669"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5669\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5675"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5669"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5669"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sinavizmir.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5669"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}